I'm a straight forward person,
which is also why I barely have friends,
people might say in order to survey in this society you must pretend to be nice even though you don't willing to!!!
If not you might get discriminate by others!!!
Of course can't apply this at your work,
cause you wouldn't wants your straight forward mindset to make you lose your job!!!
I've seen enough fake feeling in friendships,
those who pretending how awesome you're but talk behind each others (which I worry that I might be their next person to discuss about)
Bet that most of the people love to hear good about themselves rather than telling the truth,
and no matter how you tell them they're just being fake,
they always have a lot of excuses for them,
what to do???
Can't help all,
just let them came to the point until they realized it by themselves!!!
I don't mind you tell me straight to point in front of me,
but don't pretend to be nice in front and stepped back behind of me!!!
Tell me you like hear the truth or the fake one?
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请容许我说话很直,
或许有人会说说话要看人不要带点给人一种不喜欢的味道,
不然会引起别人的讨厌或排挤!!!
我说的这种不是职场上的说话技巧,
为了保着工作当然是要假假一下来生存的!!!
我说的是除了职场上工作上外的平时说话态度!!!
老实说我不喜欢那种假假明明不喜欢然后又要在前面假假表现到很喜欢一直称赞的那种人。。。
可是很奇特的就是人家这种假惺惺的态度旁观者看来是很明显的,
但是听的人就是听的很陶醉,
反而一直说他人很好(因为对方一直对他说好话)
好话都可以是篇出来的!!!
你可以说我做人会计算很多,
老实说我就是因为混了很久(我好像没有那么老来说这句话)应该说我遇到很多这种假惺惺的人太多(搞到我转个头来想我会不会是他们下一个讨论的对象),
最奇怪的是他们很多都很接受喜欢这种假惺惺的人说的一切,
当然最后就是让他们自己去撞板咯,
你会说我这种是“心不好的心态!”
哎唷,假如当时他人要听的话,我还会这样让他们自己去踩陷阱下去吗???
问题是他们听不进去啊!!!
不知道你有留意到吗?
就好像一些做直销的人(不是低纬他们,我是说“有一些”),
要做到有一定成绩的很多都是这样假假的,
一开始说这样那样都是想要讨好你,
让你可以帮他们买东西!!!
特有心直口快这个缺点,
我最厉害的就是保持沉默,
担心说多错多,
(这也顺便解释了为什么我留言会很短,嘻嘻!!!)
保持沉默当中会看看什么状况及了解,
因为长期以来常常善于观察所以从中学习到很多。。。
不然我的心直口快得罪的人不少,
那我问你,
你要听实话还是假惺惺的话???
well, of course we like straight-forward people, but then even being straight-forward you still need to be polished a little bit.. it's big knowledge how to socialize with others and i guess we are learning this skill each and everyday..
ReplyDeleteYah, got to say that I can force myself to be good in everything I want, but the only thing is hard to learn is communicate skill!!! =[
Deletedefinitely would prefer people to tell me right in front of my face, rather than to talk bad behind me.. i am quite open and willing to accept feedback (good or bad), that's how we understand ourselves better.. just talking good things in front of me but hiding the bad things from me isn't good lah..
ReplyDeleteWhich is why I always glad that people correct me face to face!!! =]
Delete我也很直率,所以常常得罪人多,称呼人少
ReplyDelete不过在职场上,必要的奉承还是需要的(唉,这现实的社会~)
我以前常常得罪人,变得很像gossip girl里面的那种主角这样,做什么都会被人放大来看,是不好的,所以都在学习当中!!! =]
Delete我也是心直口快的人,常被老公碎碎念说不懂转弯,得罪人@@
ReplyDelete所以以防万一我都是以沉默来显示先比较妥当!!! =]
Delete身边有不少都是这样的人。
ReplyDelete也看腻了,没有力气去敷衍了。
但是为了工作,还是要想一道生存之道啊~
对呀,去管他们会搞得自己很累!!! =]
Delete我也不会假惺惺,特意说假话去奉承人,所以都沒得昇上更高的职位!
ReplyDelete我也不会奉承,但是实力可以证明一切!!! =]
Delete我也是嘴巴动的比脑袋快的人,常常得罪人都不知道啊~~~
ReplyDelete嘻嘻,了解的人会没关系,至于那些不了解你的人,任由他们吧!!! =]
Delete真的有同感,我也是个很直率的人~
ReplyDelete嗯,现在也在学习中。。。
彼此彼此!!! =]
Delete講到這個,我現在也是“沉默是金”。。。少說比較好,因為有些人是專門在套別人的話,也可以說是給你陷阱跳下去。真的是要特小心。
ReplyDelete实话说,我发觉有时候沉默也是会得罪的人,所以都是要多多学习如何沟通比较好!!! =]
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