May 10, 2015, Sunday
Is Mother's Day, is that the only day you care more about your mother and is that the only day you will post as many pictures of you and her as you can to show caring about her?? While the daily posts are mainly friends and the beloved??? Recall few weeks ago my aunt told me story about her husband family celebrate her mother in law's birthday. As their family is a very stone traditional cultural family, the daughter in law must go back home to cook for father in law and mother in law for 10 days, so she has 4 sons and 3 daughters, here's how they distribute the works. Like my aunt's husband is the eldest son, so she has to go back to cook from day 1 to 10 on every months. Unfortunately her mother in law got stroke last year, then they started to find excuses not to go back and nagging here and there but without giving any helps. On her mother in law's birthday that day, each of them were so desperate to take picture with her and kissing her (Besides my aunt, she said they only "do" that and care about her on those special days, usually they just avoid from seeing her!)
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母亲节难道就只有是在母亲节的时候才想到跟妈妈庆祝? 只有母亲节才拼命的晒温馨照?? 而平时都只是有跟爱人或朋友的合照??? 记得在几个星期前我小阿姨说她跟她家婆庆祝生日的时候,她家的小姑跟其他媳妇全部都拼命的要跟她家婆合照,然后拼命亲吻。。。我小阿姨夫家是一个非常传统的家,她家婆有四个儿子和三个女儿,她家传统的规定是每十天都有一定要有一位媳妇回来夫家给家公家婆准备早,午,晚餐。我小姨丈是大儿子,所以她必须在每个月一号到十号去煮饭给家公家婆吃。她家婆不幸去年中风,情况更糟,他们开始退档来退档去开始找借口不要回去,别人在做的时候不帮忙在说,一直在旁边念来念去。。。但在家婆的生日的时候就一直大晒亲情,狂拍照(我小阿姨说“他们全部人都去亲她,只有我没有去亲!” 只有重要节日才这样的“孝顺”,平时又不见他们这样孝顺?? 那是做作出来给外人看的吧!)
Mother's day is not the only day to show how filial piety you are, if you're truly filial piety, everyday can be mother's day. When we're as a child, we always stick with our parents, while we grown up we only mind thinking how to earn as much money as we can, then finding our loved one...then our children...... The priority position of our parents was kept on dropping as our age is getting bigger, like first priority to forth priority, forth to twelve...and now they're become our replacement. So when would you thought about your mother?? Is WHEN "We want to go out! We want go for a trip!" Because is not safe to leave our children to the outsider but to our mother, isn't that she's the best guardians ever?? (Don't you agree?? Raise up your hand Please...) When we found something interesting or tasty food, first came to mind to share is to your loved one or your friends...(Mother?? She doesn't know anything and troublesome......)
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母亲节不是母亲节才庆祝才孝顺,真的孝顺的话,天天都是母亲节。人在小时候常常粘在父母身边,大了就想着赚钱想着爱人,然后就想着孩子。。。父母在自己每大一岁在心中就改变位置,一变四,四变十二,现在他们也许已变成后备(参插容祖儿16号爱人的歌词)大多想到是“我们要出去,我们要去玩,我们要去旅行!” 才会第一个想到妈妈,因为给别人顾又不放心,给妈妈照顾是最安全的了,然后有些回来更犀利的就是带了孩子就走,这是你的看护所吗? (你说是不是,请给我举手吧,不要再骗了!)其他很少会想到这个地方不错,要带妈妈来试看!(有没有?? 在你心里第一个出现的人,一定是男朋友,老公,跟好友。。。算了吧,带妈妈去又麻烦,那样不行这样不行!)
I always rushing home to help her out. When was the last time you helped out your mother in the kitchen? Doesn't matter is your mother or mother in law, they always work 365 days without any holiday, just want to cook the best meal for their children...(The first thing when you got home, is play with your phone and watch the TV, right?? Then wait for your mother/mother in law to prepare everything and just know to sit by the table to eat??? Please, raised up your hand again. Umm, let me ask, is that your maid????) Few days ago, my brother and I were look through all the cupboard in our house just to find sugar, then my brother was kept on saying we're just like guest here, not staying in this house lo!! =[
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每天放工回家都是要赶着要帮忙她。你们有几位已经很久没有这样帮忙妈妈煮饭的呢? 无论是家婆还是妈妈,每天辛苦工作,365天全年无休,就为了让家人放工回来吃顿安心满足的晚餐(你是不是一回到家就滑手机坐着看戏,等妈妈/家婆弄便便了才去饭桌吃饭呢? 又请举手吧!想借问一下,这位母亲大人是你的庸人吗?)羞耻的说,我也没有好到哪里去,那天晚上我和我哥哥几乎翻篇厨房的橱柜才找到妈妈把糖放在哪里,我哥哥一直说“我们在这间家,好像只是住客罢了!” =[
Not to insult anyone, just want to say Mother is not a maid or any replacement, treasure her before too late, no more excuses, no more I will do that later, no more if I've....then I will......!! Here to wish every awesome mother Happy Mother's Day and so to the future mother as well!! =]
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虽然这篇看起来很像在酸现在的年轻一辈,但焦点都是要告诉你,不要再找借口,不要再说以后,她是生你养你的妈妈不是你的庸人,更不是你的专属后备,珍惜要即时,祝天下妈妈和准妈妈母亲节快乐!
I also rush to help my mom leh every time I get home. Problem is, I only get home once every two months >.< ... I agree with you that mom is NOT maid. Last year, a friend bought a house in Penang and invited his mom to move in with him from his hometown. In front of friends he said: "No worries for my house cleanliness, I just imported my maid to help", it made me so angry, I already unfriend him!
ReplyDeleteWhat a terrible person, no manner...
DeleteAgreed with you..Mothers are special so we should treat them nice and special too..
ReplyDeleteYup!!=]
DeleteYou are right.. Everyday is mother's day and just not that one day.. When I was still staying with my parents b4 married, I helped and do things in the house leh..
ReplyDeleteSo good girl ya!! <3
DeleteLike Valentine's, every day is Mother's Day...but that's one day where everyone has a good excuse to go out and have something very very special, other than on her birthday...and for those auspicious festivals.
ReplyDeleteNothing like getting the whole family together, such a happy celebration! Many families have members all over the country or even throughout the world and they do not get to see one another at all, not even once a year for Chinese New Year. Sad, so so so sad.
Yah, very sad, what to do, people only realized it when they're gone...
Deleteya, I also have the same thought!! it's like suddenly all the mothers appear on FB on this day, after hiding them for 364 days, hahaha!! just the same feelings like you lah, whole year round did nothing or even did something very hurtful, and yet so proud of and showing off doing just so little things to celebrate Mother's Day on just this very single day.. well, I guess mothers never rest and never have holidays, and I guess the person who initiated this Mother's Day didn't mean this day for celebration too.. :)
ReplyDeleteYah, but everybody just understand the meaning, I found some really fake as well ya!! =[
Delete这篇文章让我无地自容阿,因为我也是那位典型的年轻人阿,呜呜呜呜呜~~
ReplyDelete不过现在更改还来得及的,我要做妈妈的爱人,家婆的好女儿,让她们感受到我每天对她们的关心~
一切都來得及,只要當機立斷,開始與當下! =]
Delete母亲节是各蛋糕和鲜花店赚大钱的好机会。
ReplyDelete平時也不會有什麼人買花喔!
Delete母亲节也是反省自己的时候。。。。
ReplyDelete我喜歡我天天都會自我反省! =]
Delete只要有心,天天都是母亲节,不必太刻意,而是不经意真情流露。
ReplyDelete那才是感動~~~
DeleteUsually on Mother's Day, u will see lots of mother's picture in FB, etc, then on Father's Day, will be lots of picture of father...
ReplyDeleteNo eyes see...
DeleteAgree with u!
ReplyDelete平日的孝心更重要!!!!!!
但很多人都不明白~~~
DeleteWhat you say is true for those people who do not like their mother in laws but on this day go and kiss her. If don't like, whatever day also don't go kiss her lah.
ReplyDeleteActors and actresses...
DeleteYeah, agreed with you but you seems very emotional in this post. Anyway, just my opinion, not too right to post that family pix there after your scolding ...
ReplyDeleteI already remove it, thanks! =]
DeleteBelated happy mother's day to your mummy Sheta.
ReplyDeleteI saw many of my friends posted about celebrating mother's day on FB during the day itself.. hehe~
Yah, indeed...
Deleteyes. everyday also is Mother's Day :)
ReplyDelete👍👍👍
Delete母亲节只是一个全家大吃的好机会,我觉得平日的孝顺真的很重要。
ReplyDelete说得对!
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