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Saturday, April 06, 2013

Specialize for PARENTS!!!

What a long post about this Mandarin article that I read on today newspaper!!!
Seriously, I don't really have the habit to read the newspaper everyday,
but I found out that when I just have the time to read the newspaper I will just found something interesting in it!!!

Since I wrote the Chinese version first and the whole article is in Chinese,
so I'm just here to make a quick summary of it!!!

Basically the whole thing is I would like to "accuse" those overprotected parents nowadays!!!
(doesn't really know is that a suitable word for it or not)
but anyways,
why would I say so???
because I'm sick of it,
I have enough nephews and nieces in my house,
which I can see how spoiled children nowadays!!!
Am I "accuse" my sisters too???
Yes, I am!!!
I have been trying to talk to them about this,
but what I got back is "You don't have a child so you can't comment on it!"

This article is just saying out loud what I wanted to say!!!
Whatever you comments on how wrong this child have done,
those parents would just said "They're still young!, I can do for them what, what's the point to ask them to do themselves, We pay for the maid so let the maid to it!!!"

So end up, what's gonna be???
Children become lazy,
(you can't blame them,
because you said "they're too young to do by themselves"
so turn out they already used to someone to do it for them)
Children become no manners,
(you can't blame them,
because you never show your manner,
you never teach them to say "Thank You!",
so they don't have the habit to say "Thank You!" to anyone,
you never teach them to cover their mouth when they sneeze or cough,
just let them cough or sneeze on others FACE TO FACE)
Children become princess and price,
can't take any stress,
(you can't blame them,
because you teach them that you're the "Little Princess" and "Little Price" in the whole world,
get everything they want,
no matter how expensive, how hard to get,
they still get for them,
instead of telling them learn to be happy with what they have,
and parents only give birth to one child,
so those grandparents are so spoiled their grandson,
just make it worst,
get out from their house actually they're just no body!!!
This bring into why so many teenagers nowadays commit suicide!!!)
Children wasted money like nobody business,
(you won't blame them for this,
because you earn to let them use "= waste" it,
so just a high school or middle school kid,
they're wearing/carrying Prada, Gucci, LV, those branded bag,
[so far, I haven't seen anyone carried "Hermes"]
changed their phone like changing clothes,
they can have Rm50 to Rm200 per meal!!!
Umm, parents are you gonna support all these for their whole life???
are you sure that if they don't work with you, are they can earn as much as you to get all these luxury stuffs???)

The main thing of all of this is just to give your child to have a better life,
but sometimes you have to let go,
to let them fall and learn,
if you keep protecting them,
they will never know, never learn to stand up by themselves!!!
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每次都不会定时的看报纸,
可是有时间就会看,
今天终于就看到了一篇认同的说法!!!
这个作者这是太棒了,
明确的说明现在这种隐形但问题却在的提要!!!
 相信我已经拍得很清楚了,
假如看不清楚没关系,
下面都是我所要说的重点!!!

 我没有孩子所以我没有父母的想法,
可能你们会用这个方式来攻击回我,
可是对于现代的观点我确实可以说是非常有资格评论的,
因为我家的侄女侄儿非常多!!!

上面文中说道正是我一直想要说出来的问题!!!
可是对于每个父母就是以这句“还小啦”来推卸一切!!!
就是这种还小所以他们什么都不会,
我生气因为我就是过来人,
虽然我有时候心软可是真实的我还是有那种我行我素的态度!!!
对!!!
我不光荣但我承认我是被宠坏的小孩,
有尽量在改进中!!!

我都这么大了,
当然这篇文不是针对我的,
我是针对现在的父母,
就比如说我的姐姐!!!
(跟我姐姐说这些,
她们回来的话就是
“等你有孩子你就知道!”
这样的回话,
那又不是我的小孩我又何必麻烦去多说呢)

我姐姐还有非常相信现在的父母都是这样,
帮他们的小孩,
“提书包”
[书包自己的,
他们既然大了自己回走路,
为什么不让他们自己那呢???
书包重???
借口,
难道你要帮他们提到何时???
中学???
大学???
还小不是借口,
书包重???
那么在学校难道是有人帮他们提的吗???
这只是养成他们一种懒惰性,
他们会心想只要我说重还是哭闹一下就有爸爸妈妈拿,
但是这一定要有例外,
比如说孩子受伤还是行动不方便的就没话说,
但是往往我看到那些行动不方便的会比行动方便的小孩来的独立和自动自发!!!]
(我家的侄儿侄女就是爸爸妈妈帮他们提书包上车下车,上楼下楼的,
所以他们的儿女懒惰不要怪他们,
你们应该怪自己的纵容!!!)

“拿衣服,拿袜子”
[这个更糟,
这个又没有很重,
他们不能自己拿吗???
在楼上,
他们不敢自己上去楼上拿???
借口!!!
这就需要教他们自己的东西自己拿,
自己的家里怕什么???
这也是养成他们的懒惰性!!!
他们不知道要穿什么???
借口!!!
这样他们永远都不知道咯,
最多他们拿错叫他们再自己去拿过,
这样他们就会记得,
他们忘了拿什么就叫他们自己去拿,
这样他们下次不想拿第二次,
自己就会记得去拿,
还是那句
“自己的东西为什么要爸爸妈妈帮你做,
上了小学可以一个人去上学,
已经不小了,
需要让他们学习自己的东西自己做!!!]
(我家的侄儿侄女,
每天我都会听到我侄女对她爸爸说:
“爸爸/妈妈你可以帮我去楼上拿衣服下来吗?”
接下来看清楚,
她不是在忙什么,
不是在忙做功课,
她是眼睛离不开那电视卡通!!!
每次都是这样,
然后我二姐就会说:
“她懒到要死,只会吃而已!”
是谁养成的???)

“洗鞋子”
[这个。。。
有时候都不知道那些小孩的白鞋到了星期二就已经变成差不多黑色的,
为什么呢???
我记得我的白鞋可以白到星期五的,
(因为我要自己洗,所以都尽量不要弄得太脏)
父母请你们不要再找借口说:
“他们不会洗啦,等他们大了才让他们自己洗!”
“哈啰!!!”
我相信在每个父母的眼中孩子是永远长不大的,
可是你们一定不可以这样一直绑着他们啊,
这样他们何时才学会???
(我有个朋友竟然到了二十六,七岁都不会绑鞋带啊!!!)
父母啊!!!
你不让他们学习,
他们何时会长大呢???
你们这样的保护只会为他们将来造成困扰,
难道你们要照顾他们一辈子,
永远替他们做这些吗???]
(我两个姐姐都是帮她们的孩子洗白鞋的,
其中那个四年级的在家里大了便还不愿自己洗屁股,
是谁养成的???
四年级了嘢???)
(还有个真实故事,
我有个男生朋友,
这是他室友说的,
他很懒惰洗衣服,
应该是家里妈妈或庸人帮他洗惯了,
当他穿到衣橱没衣服的时候,
他就会在那肮脏的篮子里捞起最下面的那件再穿!!!
恶心到我都想吐了,
这个就是要谢谢他父母无微不至的照顾!!!)

父母!!!
那是你们的孩子,
你们看了还是硬找“借口”来反驳我的,
我没话说,
因为那不是我的孩子!!!
因为现在父母很多都是专业人士,
请庸人照顾一切,
给他们过多的零用钱来代替关怀而养成现在的十五,六,七岁都是全身名牌,
还没会赚钱就花上超乎他们年龄的数目,
(不要再借口说难道你要他们寒寒酸酸这样的吗???
我曾经就认识一个他家是大到需要有walky talky来对话,
相比起来我们这种普通家庭只是在一楼大喊,
在三楼的就会听到而回应,
而他这种就是大到需要walky talky来呼叫对方,
有可想像的多大,
但说饭厅,
那就好像在“哈利波特”里面那个饭厅的那种大,
他这种要钱得让我们朋友的完全都看不出来,
直到去到他家才知道他是多么的有钱,
那是因为他没有穿超乎想象的那种大名牌,
没有选吃很贵很贵的那种大牌餐厅,
没有最贵最新的电话,
没有去他家完全不知道的富家子弟!!!
这些。。。
你不要告诉我是天生的,
这些都是父母教出来的!!!)
而现在的这种十五,六,七岁的电话最新最贵,
每次制定昂贵的餐厅,可笑的最后还说要减肥吃几口就饱的那种浪费食物态度,
(不能吃就不要叫,或和其他人分享一起吃,
我最不喜欢那些叫了吃了几口然后又说饱的那种美眉)
衣服,包包,
可以是现在的打工族的三四个月的薪水!!!
(真的是他们自己赚自己买给自己的吗???)

还没说完
(这个又是一个富家子弟,
这个更奇怪,
他平时在家穿的都是那种Walmart的那种衣服
(Walmart就好像是马来西亚的Jusco或Tesco那种)
不是家里没有给他钱,
他爸给他的钱算是买什么都行的那种,
我朋友都问他:
“为什么你要买这种衣服来穿,你又不是没有钱?”
他就说:“那些衣服好穿啊!”
这个实在无语。。。
他很喜欢玩电脑游戏和PS3,
很多游戏他都可以直接买,
他都不舍得买,
他还要说等它跌价才买)

以上的两个真实例子都不是说他们有多省,
他们的观点都是一样,
“不是自己赚的钱,哪里敢花那么多?”

或许我是受了我美国朋友自己赚钱交学费的影响总觉得花很大不是自己赚来的钱对我来说其实是件很丢脸的事,
再加上现在年轻人的爱炫耀心态实际上是炫耀自己如何花父母的钱的本领!!!

这种习惯成性的名牌族,
是如何养成???
就是从小的名牌,
大了难道我应该变成路边摊的货色吗???

谁带来的???
是父母!!!

8 comments:

  1. yeah, i think some parents are too pampering their kids and kind of spoil them.. but yet, they won't listen to others, haiz~~

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  2. @[SK]Yup, that's why I mean all the time, but what I get back is just "they're still small to do anything!" =[

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  3. @Knight Light就是说嘛,但是那些父母哪会听别人说!!! =[

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  4. 你这篇,很赞!!!
    带出很多社会问题呢~~
    我也赞同,书包,袜子,衣服都应该自己拿的,不能以他们还小的借口~~
    你的那2个朋友的家教态度很好,我敬佩!

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  5. @@LIc3 s-h-i-h^s-h-i-h对呀,可是现在的那种父母,唉,说到我都没有力气去管了,唯有一直告诉自己那又不是自己的孩子不要去理会太多,因为以我家的那种大少爷,大小姐看来我可是再有经验不可了,对呀,我也是非常喜欢他们的态度,而且一直都很有家教,完全看不出超有钱的那种!!! =]

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  6. 这种做牛做马的父母太多了!真厉害,都一一被你点出来了,说好听一点这叫爱的教育,实际上是溺爱,爱心和溺爱只是一线之差。

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  7. @普普因为我家有很多侄儿侄女,我每天都看到他们和我姐的所作所为又不能说,然后再看看其他人,而且我是被溺爱的孩子,所以我是非常的了解的!!! =]

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